Despite our closeness, I have been assumed everything in relation to my partner, but a girlfriend. Once we were even asked, "Are you two...sisters?" As my boifriend is a blue eyed towhead with translucent skin, and I use the same shade of MAC Studio Fix as Lupita Nyong'o...
As Beyoncé says, pretty hurts, and in the case of femme presentation, it hurts us in ways that others in our community may not even know or notice. Sure—being a femme lesbian has its perks and privileges, but it certainly doesn’t come without its fair share of disadvantages.
How to translate butchspeak
I just received a note from a reader who's having trouble communicating with her butch DGF ("dear girlfriend"). She asked if I could "translate" some common butch idioms.