Coming out can be an extremely challenging experience and there is no rule book to determine how and when you should do it. You may have been ready to have the discussion with those closest to you from a very early age, while others find it difficult to think about and simply wish to brush it under the carpet.
In the 21st century, being gay is very much the norm in comparison to decades gone by, so you shouldn’t feel embarrassed to talk about it. It’s essentially who you are and no-one should feel obliged to apologize for that.
Coming out is a unique experience for everyone, but we hope that this guide will give you some help and advice on how to make coming out as gay as simple and relaxed as possible:
Whether you are 100% sure that you are gay or are feeling slightly confused, it’s important to confide in someone you fully trust before opening up to others. Although it can be difficult to take that leap, it will be a huge weight off your chest knowing that you have someone who has your back that will support you if you happen to get a bad reaction from others. This could be a friend or even a counsellor.
You’re not going to get a positive reaction from everyone you meet, but rest assured, this should gradually wear off once they get used to the idea.
Choose a quiet time to sit down and chat in a space where you feel most comfortable. It may be easier for you to drop subtle hints along the way than telling them in one sitting, but this all depends on what you think is best.
Go to pride events
Remember – it’s not easier to pretend to be straight. It’s much more difficult to put on a show when you just want to be true to yourself.
Don’t be afraid to go to several international pride events. Here, you will be surrounded by others who are in; or have been in the same situation as you, so you’re bound to feel at your most comfortable and at peace with who you truly are.
Pride events are usually extremely busy and accommodation gets booked up far in advance, so if you’re hoping to attend an event abroad, it would be a good idea to do a lot of the preparation in advance – from pre-booking airport parking with Parkon.com to flights and hotels.
One of the biggest fears you may have about coming out is worrying about whether you should act a certain way. There is no right or wrong way to be gay. If you do feel as though you need some direction on how to get through difficult situations, you should connect with others in the community to give you some help and advice.
