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From FYP to Girlfriend: How TikTok Helps Lesbians Find Love

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Today, TikTok is not just for watching viral videos and learning the latest dance trends. People come to TikTok to find community, be inspired, learn something, or even find love. It has increasingly become a popular dating app, especially for lesbians.

The biggest game changer is TikTok’s For You Page (FYP) algorithm. It could drop your potential mate right on your screen. Unlike the apps dedicated to dating, you don’t have to manually swipe your life away through countless profiles. TikTok’s algorithm shows you videos that match your interests and preferences, which means you’re more likely to come across someone you’re compatible with.

For the LGBTQ+ community, this is a huge relief. The amount of fish in the sea on traditional dating apps is limited and continuously shrinking. Unlike dating apps, TikTok allows you to see a people’s personality, humor, and interests more naturally.


The Perfect Match: We Found Love in a Hopeless Place

Like many others, I found love on TikTok, and we’re going strong 18 months in! It all started with a couple of random comments, then a follow, and the next thing you know, we were on our first date IRL.

The beautiful thing is that you can find love on TikTok in the most unexpected ways. I found my partner because I post a lot about cool places in my area, and she loves trying new things. And I found her because she had some funny videos that really had me holding my sides in laughter. We never intended to connect—we weren’t even looking for love on TikTok—but our shared sense of adventure and humor brought us together.

It’s not just me—TikTok has become the spot for WLW love connections.

@dineenlaurel Did ya meet on TikTok too? Shoutout to all the LDRs #longdistancerelationship #lesbiansoftiktok🏳️‍🌈 #metontiktok #tiktokrelationship ♬ Better Off Alone – Alice DJ


If you’re looking for love on TikTok, here are some tips:

  • Don’t be too thirsty – trust me, it won’t end well
  • Don’t just watch videos, but also comment and connect with people
  • Post on your own page, no matter what it is. Just post!
  • Don’t be afraid to shoot your shot
  • Be proactive and slide into those DMs, especially now that you can message people who don’t follow you back


TikTok Dating Woes: These Girls Ain’t Loyal

Like any other dating app, TikTok has its fair share of drama and woes. The recent TikTok scandal with @lesbianplantdad is a cautionary tale about using TikTok for dating and online dating in general, especially an influencer using her status for manipulation.

But don’t worry, finding love on TikTok can still be a safe and fun experience. Here are some tips to keep in mind:

  • Set healthy boundaries
  • Understand the complexities of long-distance dating
  • Hold yourself and others accountable for their actions
  • Don’t be afraid to speak up if something doesn’t feel right
  • Maintain healthy relationships with friends and family
  • Don’t let your romantic relationship consume you
  • Only come out when you are ready. Don’t feel pressured to come out before you’re comfortable
  • Look out for red flags like love-bombing, talking down to you, or not respecting your boundaries

Remember, TikTok is all about having fun, being inspired, learning something… and finding love can be a part of that fun.




Legacy ( is a Nashville-based lifestyle blogger, influencer, and reader. Besides being the funniest person you will ever meet, Legacy creates content about fashion, things to do, travel, media, tech, and all things around lifestyle. Follow on Instagram @legacysaidsoblog and TikTok @legacysaidso.