March 20, 2014
Three black women embrace each other

Femme Problems 119: My So-Called Poly Femme Life

I will never forget the sound of my doctor’s laughter when I asked her for something to stop me from crushing on people. I had this unending want to connect with people romantically, and as I was being raised in a culture of slut shaming, I was sure that “the want” meant something was wrong with me.
March 20, 2014

RIP, Fred Phelps: Your Legacy Is Not What You May Think

While many people will be celebrating the death of Phelps, whose name is synonymous with irrational hate and vitriol, I think that today the world lost someone who did a whole lot more for the LGBT community that we realize or understand.
March 12, 2014

Oh, Allies…

For a while now, I have tried to avoid award show commentary. This year’s Grammy Awards ceremony reminded me of why... I was distracted by a different self-proclaimed ally to the LGBT community.
March 4, 2014

Femme Problems 118: If My Dresses Could Talk

As a femme, I have fallen in love with my dresses and I miss them almost as much as I miss summer itself. The short skirts, the lace, the bows, and the poufed crinoline inspired numbers—they all work together to fashion my character and portray my personality.