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How to Keep the Spark in Your Relationship

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No matter what kind of relationship you’re in or how long you’ve been together, one thing tends to happen. Things between you and your partner get a little stale and boring. The reason behind this is not always a lack of fun or spontaneity. Sometimes you lack the relationship basics needed to keep things going. After reading these few tips, you’ll have the tools to put life back into your relationship.


Many people underestimate the need for and the importance of communicating with your partner. It can be as simple as letting them know if you’re safe. If you’re having any problem, you should talk about it as soon as possible. Keeping things to yourself will only make things worse.

On the other side of the matter, you should also listen more. Not every problem that’s happening in your partner’s life requires you to fix it. Sometimes your partner wants to be heard and validated. It would help if you always took the time to figure these kinds of things out to become closer.

Physical Touch

Touching is something that we don’t think about, but it’s essential in maintaining a bond. Holding hands when you walk or a simple touch to the face when you kiss are always noticed and appreciated. Don’t forget that it’s the little things that tend to go a long way.

Physical touch also allows you to work on your intimacy. It doesn’t have to be sexual intimacy. Silently reading next to each other or cuddling before bed is sometimes all the intimacy you need. It’s a non-verbal way to remind the other person that you’re there, and you care.

Spend Time Together

With people living such busy lives, it isn’t always easy to make time for your loved ones. You won’t always be able to go out on a date, but there are still plenty of ways to spend time together. For example, doing things like cooking or cleaning together are great.

Small activities that you do with your partner will strengthen the bond between you. You may even try taking an interest in your partner’s hobby. Spend time getting to know what they like. It will allow you to see a side of them you don’t usually witness.

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Play Music For Each Other

It doesn’t matter if neither one of you has taken so much as a piano lesson. With YouTube tutorials for complete beginners on all manner of instruments, you can learn to play an instrument.

Perhaps the easiest to learn would include the kazoo, the harmonica, and the recorder, although with a small investment of time and money you can find something sexier. The BBT guitar from Taylor retails around $500 and there are seemingly limitless YouTube guitar lessons. Learn a romantic song and discover how much joy it brings your partner.

Flirt More

When you first meet your partner, everything is so fun and new. You check on each other often and of course flirt a lot more. When we get comfortable in a relationship, we tend to stop flirting.

A lot of couples who are in stable relationships flirt regularly. Remember that flirting is not just for single people and new relationships. If you need to brush up on your flirting skills, just read these facts and get your flirt on. Your partner will feel more appreciated and loved.

Don’t Fight to Hurt

Every couple is bound to clash and fight from time to time. It’s vital to make sure that when you do, it’s to eventually fix the problem. Many couples end up having the same fight over and over again because they don’t focus on the actual problem.

It’s tempting to bring up other things during the fight to make you seem less in the wrong, but this isn’t the right thing to do. When you fight, never bring up past things your partner has done or point out their shortcomings. Doing so will make things worse.

Always remember that when you and your partner fight, it’s not you versus them, but the two of you versus the problem.

A Little Spark is All it Takes

A lot of people may think it takes a significant change to get their relationship back where it used to be. The truth is that all it takes is a couple of small changes in your daily habits. You will be surprised by what a little kiss or compliment can do.



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