The Fab Femme creator Aryka Randall has published her first non-fiction book called “She’s Just Not That Into You”. The Houston, Texas resident started her fab blog six years ago as a source for femme identified women in the LGBTQ community.
She has now taken her passion for writing and love and put it into her newest project. “She’s Just Not That Into You” focuses on queer dating, relationships, open commitments, sex, and more. The book also gets specific about reality checks your friends won’t give you to avoiding toxic relationships.
“She’s Just Not That Into You is my way of reminding the world how important it is to be open to the idea of being loved correctly, as well as loving yourself enough to know that when that point comes, you have to be whole before you can be open to love,” says Randall.
Tagg: What is The Fab Femme and why did you start it?
Randall: The Fab Femme is a space I created for feminine identified people to learn more about each other, and themselves. I wanted to create content that celebrates people who identify with their feminine characteristics. As a queer woman of color who identifies as a femme, it’s challenging to thrive in a community where half of the time we aren’t visible or taken seriously.
I started TFF because there was a lack of mixed representation among LGBTQ blogs. If you want politics, you go to this blog. If you want news on lesbians, you go to this blog. If you want news on black lesbians you go to a whole separate blog. I got tired of having to click through ten different blogs to gain a tidbit of information. I ended up creating my own to help fill that void.
Tagg: Why did you write this book?
Randall: That’s a great question. I’ve always wanted to write a book so when the opportunity presented itself I jumped on it. I chose to right about love because that’s a topic that’s near and dear to my heart. I think that a life without love is no life at all.
Tagg: What will readers get from this book?
Randall: Readers will get a better understanding of why self love is needed to love other people in a relationship. This book is a reality check for everyone who has questions about why they can’t find love.
Tagg: What else do you want us to know?
Randall: I guess I just want everyone to know that love is obtainable as long as you’re in the right frame of mind. You have to be willing to put in work, be vulnerable, and learn about yourself as well as the other person. Love is easy, relationships are not. They take hard work and commitment and there is no way to get around it.