For those who’ve spent any amount of time in the dating pool lately, every standard approach might feel stale or hopeless. But, on a more optimistic note, there are myriad entities trying to shake things up for better results—or at least more exciting forms of the process. One such offering is TriviAmore.
Launched in early 2025 by Eric Feuer, TriviAmore combines bar trivia with speed dating.
Finding love through trivia
“It’s not a dating app, not a giant mixer, and not a boring night of awkward 5-minute conversations,” says Feuer. “[You can] meet people and connect on a deeper level, so that second date feels more natural.”
TriviAmore is a 2025 expansion of 123 Trivia, which Feuer launched in New York in 2023. Along with introducing TriviAmore, Feuer has since rebranded the parent entity as 123 Fun, since its offerings now also include bar bingo and networking socials, and he’s spread the brand into Miami and Los Angeles, too
And while TriviAmore began as a heterosexual-oriented dating version of classic bar trivia, Feuer soon introduced the first sapphic iteration. Though he himself identifies as a straight cisgender man, Feuer recognized an equal appeal for trivia speed dating for the LGBTQ+ community, and for the sapphic TriviAmores, he is mindful to employ a host who identifies as a member of the community.
“I try to be an authentic ally,” said Feuer.
Now make it queer
Indeed, during the July 23 sapphic TriviAmore event at Ray’s Hometown Bar in Greenpoint, Feuer displayed seemingly genuine excitement for the connection process and its potential outcomes. He even took critiques in full stride.
For example, the turnout was a bit lackluster. A full roster of 12 were meant to attend, as Feuer limits the quantity for the sake of each pair getting more quality time together, but only about seven people actually showed. As such, odds of a match weren’t great. Perhaps the Wednesday time slot impacted turnout—maybe Thursday would be better. There also is room for Feuer to expand his network of sapphic social media platforms through which to advertise the event.
Additionally, Ray’s bar is definitively queer-friendly, but some sapphics can be a bit shy in a space that isn’t explicitly sapphic (or at least dominantly queer), so it might help bolster the energy of the event if it’s held at one of the city’s lesbian-centered bars.
That update was already in the cards for sapphic TriviAmore, as before the July event even unfolded, Feuer had locked in Henrietta Hudson’s as the venue for the August 28–and third–installment of NYC’s sapphic TriviAmore.
The event sold out extremely quickly after it was advertised, which bodes well for Sapphic TriviAmore’s future. Feuer even already posted dates for three more monthly Sapphic nights—September 17, October 22, and November 9, all to be held at Ray’s Hometown Bar.
Why it works
It’s not hard to understand why the concept of building speed dating around the particular activity of trivia is one anyone might love (or at least platonically like).
“Trivia allows people to find common ground without forcing a conversation,” said Feuer. “Working as a team shows how the other person acts and allows for a different way to get to know them; it can also provide conversation topics you can follow up with on a second date!”
Plus, having both the dating element and the trivia element gives you two ways to have a successful night. You may not get lucky in love, but you may get to feel like a sexy nerd–and vice versa. What’s not to amore about that?
