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Commitment Quiz: Are You Ready for Monogamy?

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We often jump into exclusive relationships because it feels like the logical next step, after dating someone casually for a while. However, if you’re serious about finding a long-term partner, then it’s best to be sure that you’re in it for the right reasons.

This quiz will help you determine your motivations. Some of the questions are no-brainers. If you’re dating, of course there’s chemistry! But, take it a little further and reflect truthfully whether you would still have that chemistry if she became sick, gained 50 pounds, or lost her job, among other possible scenarios. It’s better to analyze your feelings now, before you’re stuck and wondering how you got into an unfulfilling or unhealthy relationship.

Both of you should answer the following questions to determine whether you should be moving to Relationship City.

#1. If you never saw them again, would you be truly devastated?

#2. Do you think about being physical with other people or meeting other people (dating-wise)?

#3. Are you happier when you’re with them and count down the minutes until your next date?

#4. Can you conceptualize a future with them?

#5. Do they enhance your personality or life (e.g., are you learning from each other regularly)?

#6. Do you respect them and their character?

#7. Do you have physical chemistry with them?

#8. When you fight, are you open to listening to and taking “their side” into consideration?

#9. Are you equally financially responsible?

#10. Do you think about including them—or want to include them—in your family plans?



You just might be ready for monogamy.
It’s worth discussing the possibility of entering into a monogamous relationship. Although you have answered “yes” to a majority of these questions, make sure that your partner is on the same page with her answers. Once you both are ready to take it to the next level, you can make it official and change your relationship status on Facebook (and, finally, delete your online dating profile).



You may not be ready for monogamy.
We aren’t suggesting that you stop dating, but we do encourage you to get to know each other a little better, before rushing into something exclusive or “serious.” Don’t jump into a relationship just because things are exciting between the two of you now. Be realistic and consider the ups and downs that every relationship goes through and whether they’re worth enduring these together.

Kim Rosenberg
Kim Rosenberg
Kim Rosenberg is a professional matchmaker with Elite Private Search DC. Learn more at