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The Art of Queer Women’s Masturbation

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While men are believed to masturbate most of the time, women also have the time of their lives in secret. Despite living in a modern world, women masturbation is still a taboo topic. However, it is not something you should be ashamed of.

The largest sexual organ of the body is the brain. There is a connection with what is inside your mind and what you are doing with your body. You can be as highly imaginative when it comes to your sexual pleasure. Thus, you can always imagine whoever woman you want while pleasuring yourself!

Masturbation Is Sexual Empowerment

Gay women have a variety of sexual lifestyles as the general community. Gay women often do mutual masturbation, oral sex, penetration with fingers, penetration with sex toys, and solo masturbation.

Past research even suggested that queer women are more sexually satisfied and responsive than heterosexual women. Lesbians and other queer individuals are reported to have sex more often and have frequent orgasms through different stimulations and masturbation.

LGBTQ people are generally more experimental when it comes to sexual pleasure. These people are more adventurous when it comes to pleasure since they do not have to conform to any heteronormative standards of penis-to-vagina sex.

Masturbation is a common sexual behavior. It exists to let you explore your gender and sexuality. The main reasons for masturbation are sexual release, pleasure, and as a substitute to partner sex. By masturbating, you will learn how your body reacts to arousal and know what feels good to you. While exploring your pleasure points, you will not be pressured to be with other people.

It’s Good for the Health

Generally, masturbation is good for your health. It helps with both your mental and physical health. Unless you use dirty toys and fingers in pleasuring yourself, there’s no chance of you contracting any disease or infection from masturbation.

Masturbation helps in relieving stress and regaining focus. Masturbating helps release endorphins, known as the feel-good chemical of the body. It also helps release oxytocin, which decreases anxiety and aids in relaxation. The most pleasurable orgasms happen when you are not distracted. Thus, getting orgasms through masturbation requires focus, which in turn will help you relieve stress.

There are also benefits for your genital area when you masturbate. Having orgasms will help strengthen your pelvic floor, which prevents any urinary incontinence. Urinary incontinence is a condition where you accidentally pee while laughing, coughing, or sneezing.

Masturbation also helps improve your sleep hygiene. The initial reaction of the body after an orgasm is tiredness and fatigue. All your pent up energy is released after an orgasm, which makes you lose your energy. Thus, masturbation for relaxation can help you sleep faster and longer.

Moreover, masturbation does not have any bad effects on you physically and mentally. There is a small risk of transmission of Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) since there is no transfer of body fluids, unlike when done with a partner. Just make sure that you clean your hands or your toys before using them.

Furthermore, for cis women, it helps prevent menstrual cramps and pains. The intensity and strength of orgasms increase pain tolerance and improves your blood flow. Your period cramps may lessen or vanish altogether.

Finally, masturbation will help alleviate menopausal problems. The lubrication produced during masturbation helps prevent drying in the vaginal area. This is relevant because menopause can cause dryness and itchiness in the genitals, especially without constant lubrication.

It’s Not Only for Single Women

Although masturbation helps single women, it also helps in the sexual health of those with sexual partners. However, some of your sexual desires might not coincide with your sexual partner. One remedy for this problem is to masturbate. You should also encourage your partner to masturbate, too.

Masturbation can be an enjoyable solo or shared activity. Some people even get aroused by the thought that their partner is touching themselves. Others get turned on when they watch their partners masturbate.

In line with this, masturbation can yield several benefits for partners. One is the development of trust since you know that the other person your partner has sexual encounters with is themselves. Another is knowing your preferences. By knowing such, you can communicate with your partner and make your sexual encounters a bit more adventurous.

However, make sure that your partner is okay with the thought of you masturbating. Some might feel like they’re inadequate sexually. Assure them that masturbating is not a form of cheating and that you are also doing it to better the relationship.

Have Fun With Toys

Some like pleasuring themselves with their hands, while others enjoy it with toys. Moreover, the right toys can make you feel seen and sexy. Toys can also make you reach multiple orgasms, too!

The most popular toy among queer women is women’s vibrators. There are different types of vibrators to choose from, such as a clitoral vibrator, massage wand, bullet vibrator, rabbit vibrator, wearable, suction, and g-spot targeting vibrator. Assess yourself what type of pleasure you want. From there, you can start shopping for vibrators.

Dildos were made for women who want to be penetrated. Unlike vibrators that vibrate, dildos stand on their own. Some come on their own, while others come with a stand or stabilizer. There are also products that have g-spot stimulators. Dildos reach places that hands can never reach, which offers more pleasure to some.

On the other hand, some women like using anal plugs. Although it can be intimidating, you might like the pleasure that butt plugs can give you. Anal plugs can hit the g-spot in another angle. Moreover, the anus has several nerve endings that can give you the pleasure that genital masturbation cannot.


Masturbation is a healthy and beautiful thing. You can always find ways to discover your sexual self and understanding how to respond to arousal through masturbation. The good thing about masturbation? You don’t need someone else to feel the nerve-wracking pleasure.




Belinda is a 42-year-old married mother of three who lives in Naples, Florida. While staying at home to raise her children, she began to write articles and blogs for various outlets. A strong believer in natural and alternative medicine, energy healing, and total wellness, she stumbled on the health benefits of the female orgasm quite by accident. Since then, she has often written pieces that help inform others about the benefits she discovered. Belinda also enjoys taking care of her home and family, and often jokes that she is a bit of a Stepford wife…with a wild side.